So Close Book Shower

May 4, 2009

Welcome to the virtual book shower for Tertia‘s book So Close!

The book is an expansion of years of blog posts from Tertia, chronicling her years of infertility, miscarriages, deaths of her babies, and eventually, the births of two live babies.

The book and blog title are called So Close, which describes Tertia’s journey more than that of anyone else I’ve ever seen. Many of us experience incremental steps in the process (trying naturally to Clomid to IUI to injectibles to IVF, in my case), but each step for Tertia occurred inch by inch.

For me, my first IVF cycle “worked” reasonably well, but resulted in miscarriage. My second IVF had better fertilization thanks to the ICSI, but no BFP and no embryos to freeze. My steps have been out of order: I have conceived through Clomid+IUI, IVF, and injectibles+IUI, in that order.

For Tertia, it took many cycles before she even made it to transfer. With each cycle, she’d get just a little closer. Those baby-step successes made it impossible to stop.

My own progression has been much less linear, but aside from my self-imposed break after M/C #1, stopping has also been out of the question for me.

The book, like all of Tertia’s writing, is wry and ballsy. It’s funny, but also painful and sad. However, I find it easier to read about loss when I know what’s coming. It’s still easier when I know there’s a happy ending eventually (however “happy” may be defined for that person).

I’m not a regular reader of Tertia’s blog, so it was only after finishing the book that I visited her site and saw that she’s expecting her third child — conceived naturally!

Infertility is like a box of chocolates — you never know what you’re going to get.

You can join the rest of the book shower at Stirrup Queens.


9 Responses to “So Close Book Shower”

  1. Cat Says:

    What a great summary of her book. I do read her blog regularly, but don’t know all the details of her journey. Now I’ll have to go get it and share it with others!

    Her blog also has a couple really great posts that I shared with the few people who knew we were doing IVF. They’re in the Infertility Reflections section on the sidebar.

  2. I love the chocolate analogy.

    But then, you knew I would :-).

  3. loribeth Says:

    I knew about Tertia’s new baby — I knew about her first baby, Ben — but I didn’t know he was a twin, or that she’d had a prior loss (Hannah). You learn something new all the time…! It’s a great book!

  4. Kristin Says:

    Great review. Even though I’ve read her blog for years, I still learned something new about her journey (didn’t know about Hannah).

  5. Eve Says:

    I’m so new to this community, I’ve never even read her blog! Now I definitely will and need to get her book as well. It’s so cool that two of our ‘blog sisters’ are fabulously published authors!!! (OH, I’m sure there’s more I’m missing too).

  6. Jamie Says:

    You hit the nail on the head – infertility ~is~ like a box of chocolates.

    After my m/c, I felt even more determined because I was just that much closer.

  7. S Says:

    Love the gump-like ending of your review.

  8. fattykins Says:

    For the life of me I can’t find your email address, so I’m commenting today to let you know that I’ve got mail! Thanks!

  9. Imogen Says:

    I’ve read this book too. Picked up so much more about her story that I never got sticky beaking through her blog 😀

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