Thoughtful Thursday: Criticized or Ignored
March 10, 2011
Turns out that Lori week has become Lori fortnight.
Lori said something during her own stop on the Life from Scratch book tour that really got me thinking:
Let’s face it: blogging is brave. We put ourselves out there and open ourselves up to both praise and criticism, and, worst of all, to being ignored.
I think I’d rather be ignored than criticized. Certainly while blogging, probably in everything else too.
Way back in 5th grade, in addition to the letter grades for each subject, we also received marks for qualities such as Penmanship, Participation, and Courtesy. Letter grades were all As. Qualities were all Es for excellent — except Ability to Accept Constructive Criticism, which if I recall correctly was either Satisfactory-Minus or Unsatisfactory-Plus.
And oh boy, was I pissed about that. Apparently the grade was accurate.
In college, not-yet-DH completed a personality inventory about me for a class. As the #1 personality trait, he chose Defensive. He showed it to me, and immediately I responded, “But I…”
And he said, “Ha ha, I did that on purpose. But it’s definitely way up on the list.”
I don’t enjoy being ignored of course, but apparently I have a thing about criticism, whereas some other people have more of a thing about being ignored.
Obviously you’d prefer neither, but if you had to pick, would you rather be criticized or ignored?