Confirmed
September 17, 2010
Sorry, kids, no Thoughtful Thursday this week.
Instead, I’ll recount a conversation I just had with my father.
Dad: Thanks for flying here to take care of your mother.
Me: Sure. This is when it’s tough to be an only child.
Dad: Sorry about that. We tried to give you a little brother or sister, but she couldn’t do it.
Me: Hmm.
Dad: We even went to a fertility specialist. My counts were low too, but that wasn’t the problem.
Blaaaargh! Female factor and male factor! Finally my suspicions are confirmed. I knew that my mother wasn’t telling me the whole story.
Vindication doesn’t feel as good as I thought it would.
September 17, 2010 at 11:54 pm
Mystery solved! You’re a nicer person than I am. Even when the discovery is bad, I get that “I was right!” thrill. I was had it confirmed that somebody that others insisted didn’t dislike me, did in fact, dislike me. My original thought: “See, I *knew* it!”
September 18, 2010 at 3:47 am
I am pissed off on your behalf that your dad said it wasn’t his fault! Sounds like 50/50 to me!
September 18, 2010 at 6:08 am
I’m sorry. You can prepare yourself all you like for what you suspect is true, but confirmation can still knock you off your feet.
September 18, 2010 at 7:45 am
Hmmm. Well, it’s good to have more of the story, I suppose.
Sorry to hear that your mom is requiring extra care.
September 18, 2010 at 3:33 pm
Oh wow… that is a big confirmation! Sorry, to hear about your Mom’s health!
September 18, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Knowing is hard. But it’s almost always better than not knowing.
Too bad there was (and is) such shame in IF.
September 18, 2010 at 8:01 pm
I didn’t know about my parents’ troubles conceiving me until I was an adult (before I got married). Turns out it was 100% my dad’s problem, and it took three years but here I am. After that they stopped trying for more kids. Maybe if there hadn’t been an infertility issue they might have tried for a boy, but after all they went through for me they just didn’t have it in them to try again.
September 19, 2010 at 12:30 pm
Wow, definitely good info to have.
September 19, 2010 at 7:22 pm
i’m sorry you had to fly out.
this is when it’s bittersweet to know the truth.
xx
September 23, 2010 at 5:25 pm
Sorry you’re just finding this out now. Hang in there.
September 26, 2010 at 12:06 am
First of all, kudos for being there for your parents…I know it does unsettle routines and plans, but still you did it. Good.
Second, suspicion confirmed is not necessarily a good or bad thing. I am sorry that your parents tried to conceive and failed at it. I am sure it hurt them as well.
Your father does point out low sperm count and goes on to reveal that there was female factor involved too. Do not know which side is the higher contributor, but it adversely affected their chances anyhow.
Sending a ‘Get Well Soon’ wish for your mother.