Thoughtful Thursday: Stand-Up
June 9, 2010
Continuing where we left off last week…
I just came very close to getting on a plane to help my mother, then was able to avert the crisis.
When I thought I was going to get on a plane the next day, I needed to find a way for Burrito and Tamale to be taken care of, because bringing them cross-country alone was not feasible. The babysitter will be unavailable the most of the days I would have been gone, and DH was supposed to go out of town again.
Without a second thought, I called his stepmother to see if I could fly her here.
Her response? “Hmm let me think what I have lined up, you know what, never mind, I’ll be there. Anything you need.”
I turned out not to need her help, but I am so grateful that I could depend on her. Willing and able to care for the twins, and eager to help me do anything I needed for my mother’s situation including hop on a plane with less than a day’s notice. Even after I told her that she didn’t need to come, she emailed me several times to say that if anything changes she’s ready to come anytime I call, that her bags are packed. She is completely stand-up.
Her husband, DH’s dad, would also have come if we’d asked. He is also entirely stand-up.
Other than that? No one else who could both be trusted to handle both of the babies and who would drop everything to come. No one else that we could truly rely on to pause their own lives, take care of two infants adequately, and do it all without holding anything over our heads later.
There are some other relatives and friends that I could lean on for other types of emergencies, but this incident really cemented the hierarchy of who we can call in the middle of the night.
How many people in your life are stand-up? How do you know for sure that you can count on them?