August 10, 2009
Conversation with random lady (I was buying some used baby gear from her via Craigslist):
Lady: Twins, how wonderful! You must have been so surprised to find out you were having twins!
Let’s stop here. The socially appropriate response would have been, “Oh yes!” A fairly appropriate but still honest response would have been, “Kind of.” Neither of those was my response. At the time I found out there were two embryos, based on the betas we were thinking there might be record-breaking higher order multiples. We were not surprised by seeing two; we were relieved that there were only two.
Me: Surprised? No, not really.
Lady: (awkward silence) Yeah, well, twins are great… (wanders off)
Even without actually mentioning infertility, the mere hint of it sends people running away.
At least she didn’t ask if twins run in my family.