Comments on: The Race Is On

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 17:18:02 +0000

Oh, I hope with you that it is you first. I don’t think it is wrong to feel a deep sense of fairness that it should be your turn. You have waited so very long.
I hope your baby shower precedes her wedding shower.
I don’t have a younger sister but I had many younger cousins who popped out babies in their early 20’s. Thankfully I adopted right as one of them got pg. It helped ease the pain of her baby shower.
PS: thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting. I am enjoying reading your posts for the 1st time.

By: Steph

Steph — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 03:04:22 +0000

I totally understand about younger sisters – hubby has one that may have kids before us and it bothers me way more than it does him.

Thanks for the comment on my blog – I am very blessed to have such an awesome RE – she’s smart and compassionate and a Christian. She’s just awesome.

By: Miss

Miss — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:01:15 +0000

Stopping over from Stirrup Queens…

I completely feel you pain and understand. You’re not a horrible person. In fact, you made me smile. I think it’s natural to feel this way, and I like the race analogy. I feel like that too. Between my four SILs (all on DH’s side) I have 11 nieces and nephews. All under 6 years old. Three have been born in the time that we’ve been trying. Looks like I’m definitely loosing the race so far

I really hope that you get your baby soon!

By: SAHW

SAHW — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 15:43:55 +0000

Found you through Mel’s round-up. Wow, I was just have these same thoughts as well! My SIL is getting married next summer, and all of a sudden, it dawned on me – they might have kids before us! I never, ever thought that I might be at her wedding without at least one kid (I thought I would have had two by that time!), and now suddenly, I’m faced with this prospect. I totally feel what you’re saying and feel panicked about the possibility…I’m praying we both have a baby or one on the way within the next year!

By: Kristin

Kristin — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:31:04 +0000

I remember this feeling. The race took very different forms for me but I do remember this feeling well. I hope and pray you get that baby soon.

By: Star

Star — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 01:30:35 +0000

I completely understand how you feel. I did not have any friends have kids before me, and my husband’s sister is 5 years older than him and had both her kids before I met him. But I just found out that a couple I no longer talk to just had a baby, and even that brought up those race feelings in me even though I had mine a year before them! (Talk about ridiculous, right?) It is very natural to feel this way. Knowing that probably will not make it easier to deal with your SIL, but just so you know you are not alone . . .

By: Nity

Nity — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:37:47 +0000

I can completely understand your need to have a child first. I do think your argument for them NOT to have a child right away hit the nail right on the mark. NO – if you can’t afford a wedding, you can’t afford a child. I’m hoping it works for you!!!